I have really struggled with coming to terms with being a "divorced" woman. It's embarrassing, it is heart-wrenching, and it is just plain hard to handle. Anyone who thinks it's been no big deal to me is dead wrong. Many have talked about me, confronted me with how they feel, and condemned me for preceding with the divorce.
As I was reading our lesson for this week from our smart stepfamilies book, I came across this paragraph and wanted to share. There might be someone out there in blog world that needs to hear this...or maybe I just need to hear it myself and see it written down in order to start healing my heart.
"The answer to the question 'How does God feel about me and my less-than-perfect family situation?' is this: God loves and forgives the imperfect people in stepfamilies the same way he loves and forgives the imperfect people in biological families. Furthermore, people in stepfamilies are not 'second-rate Christians,' simply because there is no such thing as a 'first-rate Christian.' We're all sinners and all less than perfect. All our families are less than ideal. And we all need a Savior." - p. 58 in "The Smart Stepfamily" by Ron L. Deal
5 comments:
Well said Abbie! I am sorry that people would treat you this way and thankful you know the truth about Gods' love for YOU!
Abbie to me it seems like you are always trying to do what is best! I think it is great you are going to that class. Keep following your heart and continue to keep God in that sweet heart of yours!
Abbie, I can't believe that anyone would treat you with any less respect than I know you deserve. You made the best choices you could for you and Max, and quite frankly, those decisions were between you and God. I am my husband's THIRD wife. He used to ask me why I would want anyone like him because he was damaged goods. It still makes me cry to this day. Because our life is so full of love, comittment, and blessings and my only wish was that God could have brought us together earlier. He has learned so much from his life before me and that is what has made him a TERRIFIC husband. Thanks for sharing that paragraph. I love that Gabe is taking the class with you :) I hope you find the peace you are looking for!!!!!
great post abbie. i don't know how it feels to be divorced. but i do know i've felt that way many times about having Brycen before we were married. felt the judgement from people. felt my own judgement of myself. and felt my Savior's redeeming love. thanks again for sharing!
Amen, sister!!:) I've found out that many of the people who say things or condemn us for the decisions we've made along the way have absolutely no idea what it is we're going thru, and instead of praying for or trying to help us thru it, they find it easier to condemn. I love you and I'm behind you all the way:)
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